I am just curious, is dating just for white people?
Have you ever wondered why African parents are so against their children dating? Is dating a taboo in the African culture? What is it about dating that is so wrong?
I understand some parents are over protective, strict, think their children are not mature enough, and some are simply afraid of teen pregnancy etc. But, parents need to understand that the dating process is something young people want to experience as well. In terms of relationships, is it not our experiences that shape who we are? Is it not our journey of discoveries that help us achieve maturity?
In retrospect, my parents were so against me dating in my early teen years—but I did it anyway behind their back. Looking back, I am glad I did this because I have learned some good and bad things. For example, out of my experiences, I have developed stressed coping mechanisms that come with relationship problems, finding balance, and forming relations in other areas of my life such as work, and socially.
I find It interesting though how African parents are quick to allow their children to get married but are not keen on this dating process—which is of great importance in my opinion.
We live in a world today of Facebook, Instagram, and alcohol—a world fueled by dopamine addiction. Dating should not be perceived as bad, but rather a vital experience young people should freely experience.